Friday, July 6, 2012
Ok, I’m a retired choleric. After so many years of dancing, running, and life, I have become a sanguine. I haven’t laughed this much in years. Yes, I’m a list-maker melancholy deep in my heart, and I do try to please others as a phlegmatic, but now, it’s time to laugh and be happy.
The urge to go back to my old choleric ways is always there. I have a quick tongue and a fast response. “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger,” Proverbs 15.1. Now, I am trying to think before I speak and take a moment before I utter words that I will always regret. “I will put a muzzle on my mouth…” Psalm 39:1
In December of 2010, when I fell, broke my shoulder and had surgery, I asked, “What am I going to learn from this?” It’s only now that I realize what that lesson is. With shoulder injuries, there is always the possibility of frozen shoulder (adhesive capsulitis). The shoulder freezes and you get stuck. Now, through all the dancing, swimming, and stretching, I have full use of my new shoulder.
Guess what? In my life I had become “frozen” and “inflexible”. To tell the truth, I was becoming bitter and getting a hardened heart. Trust me, shattering your shoulder and getting a new one will take you down a notch. Now, I have forgotten the pain and I truly have almost forgotten it ever happened. Now I check not for shoulder freeze, but for “heart freeze”. Am I living a life of gratitude? Am I saying “Thank You” to others for what they do for me? Am I giving back in my life through service and a strong work ethic?
Now, I am faced with new challenges of the future and planning my next 20 years with Arthur Murray Dance Studios. What’s exciting is that I DO have a plan and I know, God willing, exactly what I’m going to do. I have my hopes, dreams, passions, and I plan on dancing for many, many more years.
Could I have let the bad times change me? Could I have let a shoulder reconstruction ruin my life? You bet I could have, but I took action and turned it into a blessing. If your rough days at work, unhappy times at home, bad health, or poor relationships are getting you down, don’t let it alter you in an unenthusiastic way. Make a positive change for the better. Live a life of gratitude, it’s easier and more fun.
When someone comes to you angry, just remember they’re not angry at you; they’re upset with themselves or something that happened to them. Try to take a moment and be a bright spot in that person’s day and get them to smile. As I always say, never waste a bad mood, dance a Tango and let that Argentine passion loose!
Next week: You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore!
David Earl Woodbury
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